I have been travelling using public transport since I can remember. The red, metal box with its engine throttling, the conductor screaming for tickets and all of us scrambling for a good 1×1 sq feet of place to stand. And if you get a seat, you can guarantee the Gods love you.
I had the chance to get a window seat so I knew God had his hand on my head. While I was making myself comfortable and also smirking at another lady who had tried real hard to get the seat (the struggle was real), I also had a chance to see a young boy on his horrendous orange 2 – wheeler bike get past all the middle class vehicles (I own one of them, too!) with a speed that would put Usain Bolt to shame.
Like everyone, I was judging. First, his gaudy bike; second, his lack of respect for the traffic, and third, that he had just risked his life to get past the red lights on his flying carpet.
And secretly, the truth that he will reach his destination before all of us.
Just as the lights turned green, I quickly scanned the roaring vehicles, as if in a race, ready for another round of rash driving. The vehicles began their zig-zag movements on the road, sparing no free inch, and as they reached the highway, every vehicle picked their top speed and hence the race (or whatever you can call it) began, until the next traffic light.
Journeys are uniquely difficult for everyone; focus on your Destination
We are always in a race to reach our destination / goals and every individual has a speed unique to him. We come across hurdles, speed breakers and the Orange bike clowns who either slow us down or risk our hard work. Either our roads are with twists and turns with a few bumps, or there are a few inches of road on a straight journey of potholes – both ways, we have someone to curse for delaying our journey.
Because how can we blame our inefficiency to overcome the problems, right? We don’t do that!
Often, we forget about the end result; the goal we have in mind and care a little too much about the car / bike we have. We put too much efforts on the speed to reach the goal, but forget that it is okay to take your time and reach there an hour late. Hey, at least you have reached, right?
What would you say about that orange bike clown who tripped and fell on the road and had to be hospitalized? See, his speed took him onto a different journey, altogether.
Not every opportunity is used to the fullest
We look out to a bigger, fancier and an extravagant vehicle that is no better than the car you already have and feel completely shithead about it. We believe that if we own that car, or that piece of jewelry, or get that crush, or become that personality, we will achieve our destination quickly.
Just like the rising traffic has constricted even the 20 feet wide roads, our distractions have constricted our journey. Even that 45-Lakh matte black car I was talking about is riding slow, hurling abuses and blaring his horns at the 4 Lakh red car whose driver is been too careful to drive fast. This means that even the red car can reach his goal before the matte black car whose driver is dumb enough to not maneuver and know what to do with all the features.
You can have everything and not achieve your dreams and have nothing and go blazing on your bike. A simple idea that you must have something to achieve your goal, is a mere perception of your own weakness. Instead, using all the resources you have and deploying them to their maximum potential with an execution strategy, might just get you past the traffic lights!
It’s okay to reach late
Does your family throw you out if you reach home an hour late because of the traffic? They may be pissed off (okay, I agree the risk of being thrown out by your parents is quite high!) but you make it. You have reached your destination, even after the 3 wheeler idiot caused all the drama on the road.
Then should it matter if you become a successful entrepreneur at the age of 50? Or, does it matter that you become a mother at the age of 39? Achieving your first milestone of X amount should be your dream. Holding your baby for the first time should make you beam with joy.
Everyone of us has a unique journey, our own milestones, our ups and downs, our problems (which FYI, are evenly distributed across our entire lifespan, and amongst all of us. So quit whining); even our rate of success and the ultimate goals differ. What matters is we have set something to achieve and we have achieved it, no matter what.
The next Red Signal is here
All of us are here at the signal, waiting for the signal to go green. All of us, traveled on various roads, met many idiots, in our 4 Lakh and 45 Lakh cars, for 10 minutes and for 2 hours, have made it at the signal. The best part? Our engines are still roaring, our fuel tanks are full (or half full, considering the prices) and we have an open road ahead, with goals waiting for us.
The lights will go green in 3……..2……….